Bookish Thoughts #004: Instalove And Why I Hate It More Than Economics

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I hate Economics. I might go around convincing others (and occasionally, myself) that Economics is something that I like and that I can deal with it in sporadic doses.

Warning: Don’t believe me when I say anything like that! It is bullshit in its highest form.

I DO NOT LIKE ECONOMICS and I do not know when in my life I will ever use the Marginal Propensity to Consume!

And it’s the very same with instalove. I DO NOT LIKE IT and I do not know why I see so much of it in books when it does not happen in real life!

Now, I understand the appeal. Really, I do. Can you just imagine how amazing it would be for this hot guy/girl to just look at you and in that one glance you know. You just know that this is the person you’re going to be with for the rest of your life. There’d be no angst or broken hearts or tears.


I think what bothers me most about instalove is the fact that there seems to be not one book, NOT EVEN ONE, that has gotten it right. And do you need examples?

Stepbrother Dearest. Anna and the French Kiss. Taint. Beautiful Oblivion.

I don’t even get me started on the monstrous disaster that was ROMEO AND JULIET.

And instalove in YA novels is a disease. So many readers encourage authors to look beyond the whole love-at-first-sight thing and yet, instalove is what seems to keep these YA novels selling. And why? Is it because people are tired of reading the slow burn that comes with a romance novel? Are we so impatient that we don’t want to wait for the protagonists to actually get to know each other before they nookie?

And dear Lord, do we even realize what we’re doing to young girls who read this crap? Here’s what: We’re telling them that it’s okay for them to “fall in instantaneous love” with the first hot guy they meet in high school. We’re saying it’s okay for them to be a part of these shallow, superficial relationships. We’re telling them to be clingy and commitment-phobic and keep unrealistic expectations for their “happily-ever-after.”

Am I the only one bothered by this? What do you think about instalove and its implications and effects?




11 thoughts on “Bookish Thoughts #004: Instalove And Why I Hate It More Than Economics

  1. Ugh…economics. *makes a scowling face* Don’t even talk about that… 😐

    And I completely agree with everything you’ve said here Rhea. Sure, you can be attracted to someone instantly after meeting them, but I don’t think it’s realistic to say you’re in love with them after only seeing them once in your life, you know? It bothers me that romance is portrayed that way so often in YA.

    Thanks for sharing, and wonderfully written post!
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  2. I am so sorry, but I love Anna and the French Kiss forever, and I am just so sorry. I’m fine with instalove if it works for me, or if there’s other good stuff about the book, or some really good development throughout the book.

    I don’t think it is a healthy idea to spread, though. There should be some sort of disclaimer on books for that, haha!
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  3. I have to second Shannelle on Anna and the French Kiss. I absolutely loved it (didn’t even saw it as instalove because they were friends first) and will always be one of my favorites. Instalove, the one where the characters immediately fall in love with each other, is ridiculous. But if it’s just attraction or maybe lust, I think that’s realistic. For me, it still boils down to the author’s execution. 🙂

    1. Definitely! Perspective. It all comes down to the reader’s perspective. If you’re to going to read instalove and think of it as “real” then you need to realise that you’re possibly setting yourself up for a major disappointment.

  4. “Are we so impatient that we don’t want to wait for the protagonists to actually get to know each other before they nookie?” HAHAHA!

    Contemporary romance books are my guilty pleasure but there are still times when I get fed up especially if they misuse the word LOVE. They could have used attraction, right? Or falling in “like”. But seriously, saying the word love after 5 minutes of staring at each other then tearing each other’s clothes? I don’t think so.

    But don’t get me wrong, there are instalove cases that I can tolerate. Try Penny Reid’s Knitting in the City series. It’s amazing. I swear. 🙂
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